First few weeks baby crying is normal: Every child feels separation and stranger anxiety. Separation anxiety is when you leave your child, he/she starts crying, and stranger anxiety is child cries among strangers. This is very much normal and varies from child to child. Babies under 6 months don’t take such a long time in adjustment into the daycare, because they don’t have such anxieties. After 6 months age, babies develop object permanence. Object permanence is babies remember the things and know that things are still exist even if they are not visible, so elder babies search for their parents if they are not with them. Unfortunately they don’t understand that parents will come after some time. Babies understand this slowly when it becomes their daily schedule. So children can take few weeks in adjustment into the day care and it is perfectly normal. Some children even can take more than this. It also depends on child temperament and their schedule also.
How to help the child in adjustment in daycare:
- Select daycare carefully: Research for your options and select that one which you feel best for your child. You should observe the babies and care takers ratio, their experience. Their fee, their timings, its location and facilities etc are some points which you should observe when you go to select a daycare for your child. Once you choose one then try to trust on that daycare.
- Control your feeling before child: Don’t express your feelings in front of your child. Yeah we know that leaving your child into the daycare is not easy for a mother too, but if you show your feeling in front of the child, he/she would take long in adjustment into the daycare. Kids can sense your feelings very easily so share your emotions with other family members or friends but not with your kid.
- Prepare your child for the new environment: Do some work and prepare your child for the daycare new environment.
- Read book based on daycare: Read some picture books with your kid which are based on day care and tell him/her that every child go to the daycare.
- Ask in daycare to synchronize with kid’s schedule: Ask for the schedule from daycare and try to synchronize with it at home too, so that your kid would not feel schedule adjustment problem there.
- Spent some time in daycare with the child: First few days/ weeks (as required) stay at daycare with the kid and make him/her familiar with new people and new environment.
- Child should be well fed and active: Remember when you go to the daycare to drop the child he/she should be well fed and active, otherwise if the child is feeling sleepy or hungry then he/she would not enjoy there.
- Try to make your child independent: Let your child do things independently, like encourage self eating, self drinking, potty training etc.
- Don’t forget these things: Always remember these points also.
- Pack all necessary thing of the child: pack all the necessary things like water bottle, milk bottle, bibs, hankies, formula milk (if required), nappies/diapers, food, favorite toy etc.
- All items should be labeled with the child’s name.
- If child is still on breastfeeding: If child is still on breast feeding then try to go and feed the child at least once in a day.
- Say a quick goodbye: When you leave the baby say a quick good bye. Hanging around make him/her upset and make difficult for your child in adjusting there. Also don’t sneak out without him/her knowing. This won’t help, and it may just make him/ her more afraid that you aren’t coming back. In starting try to come back little early.
- Take your child to daycare daily: Try not to skip and take your child daily to the day care, because like this he/she accept it like his/her daily routine.
- Always listen to your child feelings:Although you are leaving your child into the daycare against his/her wish still always listen and try to understand your child’s feelings, and try to solve his/her problem. And if you feel that he/she is not ready to stay in day care at all then you should think for other options too, like continue your work from home for few more months.